It is common to be scared or sad if you are told that someone you care about is hurting yourself and feeling bad.\u00a0There is much you can do to help the person.\u00a0You can talk about how they feel, listen and help seek help if needed.\u00a0You may need help yourself in order to be good support and to feel good yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Self-harm may be to harm your body in some way or to expose yourself to something risky.\u00a0If a person injures himself, take it seriously.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It is common to be scared, shocked or sad if one is told that someone is hurting themselves.\u00a0It can also express itself as anger.\u00a0It can be scary to think about how the person is feeling.\u00a0Maybe you think you would be a bad parent or adult if it is a child or young person hurting themselves.\u00a0But many of those who hurt themselves have good relationships.\u00a0Injury is often a way of trying to deal with painful feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It is not dangerous to talk to a person about how they feel bad. Talking about it means you care, and it’s important. You do not need to provide answers or solutions. The most important thing is that you listen respectfully and try to understand the person’s situation, without judging or questioning. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Different feelings can be aroused in you when you meet and talk to the person who is hurting himself. Be aware of those feelings so that they do not burden the person. For example, it may be good to wait for conversations until the feelings are no longer so strong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You can do a lot for the self-harming person. You can support your loved ones to address their problems by listening, showing that you care, and encouraging them to seek help.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In order to stop\u00a0hurting yourself, it is good to think about why you do it.\u00a0You can help the person with this.\u00a0Talk about what situations make them want to hurt themselves.\u00a0What feelings do they have then?\u00a0It becomes easier for the person to avoid hurting themselves if they learn to recognize the situations or feelings that usually cause them to want to hurt themselves. \u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There is almost always a purpose to harm yourself. Does it help the person to deal with difficult feelings and thoughts? Does it make others understand how struggling they are?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The answers to these questions say something about what the person needs. But they need to get it in other ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Injury to oneself often solves a problem for the moment, but almost always means that the problems become bigger in the long run. Injury to oneself usually prevents one from finding other ways of dealing with emotions and solving problems.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It may be that the person does not know what controls himself. You may need to think together:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Anyone who injures himself needs to train to endure hard feelings.\u00a0They may also need to find other ways to deal with difficult thoughts, feelings, and relationships.
One tip is to write a list of things to do instead of hurting themselves when they get thoughts of doing so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It can be scary to be close to someone who is hurting and hurting themselves. It can awaken many emotions in yourself. It is natural to feel inadequate or powerless. The fact that you care about you means a lot. You do as best you can. It can be difficult to be supportive of someone else if you yourself are very worried, scared or sad. Therefore, it is good to help yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Talk to someone if you are unsure of what to do. You should also always talk to someone if the person who is hurting himself does not want to talk about it at all. It can help you see more possible solutions to the problem. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
You can start by talking to someone you know, like a friend or relative.\u00a0You can talk to student health or other school staff about who is hurting going to school.\u00a0If they are studying you can contact student health.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You can also contact a youth clinic, a health center, someone who works with parental support in the social services or child and adolescent psychiatry, bup. In some places, there are support groups or training courses for people who are relatives of someone who injures himself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There are also several places you can contact by phone or email for support and advice:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You can begin to feel irritated and frustrated over time.\u00a0You can also feel sad even.\u00a0Maybe it feels like you can’t take care anymore.\u00a0So it can be if you have been overwhelmed by difficult and painful feelings for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the end, you turn off those feelings of being able to cope with the rest of your life, like school, work, friends and other things you have to do.\u00a0Feeling angry and wanting to shut down can be an attempt to get away from your grief, fear, and anxiety.\u00a0It does not mean that you have stopped caring.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When someone injures himself, people around him can be affected in different ways. It is difficult for us humans to be in an ongoing crisis. There is not always a simple answer to what is right. Try not to let self-harm control you too much, for example in the family. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
One important thing is to take breaks from worry. Do nice things together, with family or friends. What do you usually like to do together? What did you usually appreciate earlier? Try to find ways that allow everyone to relax and have a good time together, even if the person has not stopped hurting themselves. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Don’t forget yourself.\u00a0Also, focus on things that make you feel good and doing things you like.\u00a0Meet people you like to hang out with.\u00a0Try to make sure you eat and sleep well and to move, for example, by exercising.\u00a0You need it to be able to be good support and to reduce your own vulnerability.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Many who hurt themselves do everything to hide it. Others want it to appear, as a way to show that they need help. It is common to be ashamed of what you do. Therefore, it can be difficult to detect that someone is hurting himself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There are some signs you may be aware of:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Of course, noticing that you do not necessarily mean that the person is hurt. People of all ages hurt themselves, but this is most common among young people. Younger children can also hurt themselves in different ways, but it is more unusual.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Most people who hurt themselves do it once in a while and some do it several times. Only for a few does it become a behavior that is difficult to get rid of. Most people stop when they get older.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You can always ask cautiously if you suspect someone is hurting yourself in some way. Do not try to force an answer if the person does not want to talk about it. Keep paying attention to how they feel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The earlier the injured person gets help, the better chance they have of feeling better. Therefore, do not wait to talk to the person about seeking help if you understand that it is needed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
You who are related to a child or young person under 18 who injure themselves: Seek help, no matter how much or how long the person has been hurt. It is always good to get an initial assessment of the situation and what help is needed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It is also good to get an assessment of the child or young person who is depressed for a long time, gets irritated or aggressive, gets a more uneven mood than before or often seems worried or anxious. \u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Other things that you can pay attention to are if it starts to work poorly in school, at home or at leisure, if they sleep poorly or if they see no sense with things that used to be fun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Also seek help if the young person in addition to the self-harm behavior has other problems, such as\u00a0eating disorders,\u00a0alcohol\u00a0or drug\u00a0abuse, sex in a destructive way, situations of violence, or if\u00a0they have thoughts of taking their life\u00a0or attempting suicide.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A person who injures himself may need to gather the strength and courage to seek help.\u00a0It can also feel difficult to receive help.\u00a0That you as a relative are there and provide support can mean a lot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You may need to seek help several times before you find something that works. If you have previously received help, but do not think it was right, try again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Contact\u00a0child and adolescent psychiatry, Bup, a\u00a0youth clinic, student health or\u00a0a health center.\u00a0The person you meet can refer you to more specialized care if you agree that it is needed.\u00a0There are also private receptions that receive people with self-harm behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A teenager can also make contact with a pup or a youth reception, or student health if they go to school. You may need to seek help in different places, and seek again, if you feel that you are not getting the help you need.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Persons under the age of 18 should also be allowed to decide on their own treatment. Assessment and treatment are usually better if parents or close relatives are involved in the care.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A person who is 18 years or older needs to seek care for themselves.\u00a0As a relative, you can, of course, offer to make the first contact, make an appointment or follow along.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
They can contact a health care center, psychiatric clinic or emergency room. The person can also contact a youth reception if they are up to 20-25 years, the age limit varies between different receptions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If they are studying and the problems have to do with the studies or the college, they can contact the student health.\u00a0In some locations, there are psychiatric clinics for young adults up to the age of 25.\u00a0As a relative, you may be involved in the care of someone over 18 if the person wants it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You can always support the person who injures himself by, for example, finding out what help is there where they live.\u00a0This applies to both care and non-profit associations.\u00a0Tell me about what you find.\u00a0Ask if they want you to help in some other way.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The person who injures himself can get different types of help. What help they get depends on how much and how long they have hurt themselves, and what it is because they hurt themselves. They can be treated for other problems at once if needed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you are seeking care at Bup or at a psychiatric clinic, an initial assessment is sometimes made on the telephone. Sometimes the assessment is made at the first visit. Then you will know if the reception will continue with further investigation and treatment. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the article\u00a0To injure yourself,\u00a0you can read more about what help the person can get.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It is important that the person receiving help feels confident in the practitioner they meet in order for the help to work.\u00a0Ask to meet someone else if it doesn’t feel good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Anyone who gets help can ask the therapist if there is something they do not understand. Ask to have the information written down or translated to read it in peace.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Here you can read more about the rights of children and guardians in health care.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It means a lot that you as a relative or parent are there for the person who is hurting himself. That you show that you care and offer to help is important for them to feel better. But if the person himself does not want to receive treatment, you probably cannot get them to do it. This also applies to persons under the age of 18.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It can be a very difficult and difficult situation for you. Try to respect the person’s wishes. What you can do is keep talking about how they are doing. Bring up the question of help again and again, in a demanding way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
A main rule of health care is that no one should be cared for against his will or treated without having agreed to it himself.\u00a0This also applies to persons under the age of 18.\u00a0At the same time, there are laws that say that a person can be forced to care in certain situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For example, it may be relevant if someone who seriously injures himself or herself does not want to be treated. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
The social services can take care of a person under the age of 18 under the Act on the Care of Young People, LVU. It may be relevant, for example, if the person who injures himself also risks his health seriously in some other way, for example with drugs or other self-destructive behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Then care is given outside the home, for example in a so-called home for care and housing, HVB-homes. Interventions under LVU are not voluntary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Persons may also be forced into care under a law called care under\u00a0the Psychiatric Compulsory Care Act, LPT.\u00a0It applies, for example, if someone risks seriously injuring themselves or others due to mental illness, and refuses to receive care and treatment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It may be someone who says they have serious plans to take their lives and refuses to receive care. If there is violence, a police officer can help so that the mentally ill person comes to a psychiatric clinic. A doctor will decide if LPT should be used. This Act applies to both children and young people and persons over 18 years of age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
EgoNova is a three-year information project on self-harm behavior and the double problem self-harm behavior\/eating disorder problem and is implemented by the\u00a0Association SHEDO.\u00a0The purpose is to increase knowledge in the area and to work against prejudice and stigma.\u00a0The project also wants to highlight stories that show that it is possible to get well.\u00a0Read more on Ego Nova’s website.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In order to develop and coordinate knowledge about young people at risk of or who already have serious self-harm behavior, all county councils collaborate in the\u00a0National Self-harm Project.\u00a0The goal is for the project to contribute to better early care and better care.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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